What I've Learned in 40 Years

Sue wrote this for her 40th Birthday and shared it with friends. Pastor Barb read it at her Memorial Service. Tom wanted to post it here so this wonderful bit if Sue's wisdom can be shared.

What I've Learned in 40 Years

I’ve learned to cherish my friends daily, because changing times and locations may draw us apart at ant time….I now know that this a natural part of life and that letting go is as important as holding on.

I’ve learned that I don’t have to be liked by everyone, nor should I allow my actions to be motivated by such a goal.

I’ve learned that it’s up to me to accept myself, and only then can I accept others.

I’ve learned that family responsibilities and things beyond my control sometimes prevent me from doing “my best” but that’s OK.

I’ve learned that things are terminal, but souls are not.

I’ve learned to let go of a lot of things….friendships, broken dishes, lost jackets, babies, loved ones, my youth….and to celebrate God’s provision of others to heal me and fill the void.

I’ve learned that peace comes in quiet times and that it’s up to me to claim daily quiet time so that I can be a better person, for myself and for others.

I’ve learned that life is an incredible adventure if I am aware of daily surprises.

And finally I’ve learned that attitude is everything, so today I turn 39 and 365 days…. And my gains far exceed my losses.

Special Friend

I remember the first time that I met Tom and Sue. Linda and I had been married that previous Summer, 1988, and Linda was a new teacher in the Watertown district. It was at a beginning of the year party at Don and Ruth’s old house. I remember that Sue made an impression on me the first time I met her and it was an impression that never changed in the nineteen years that I knew her. I could see immediately that she possessed an incredible capacity for warmth and love.

Over the years Linda and I became close friends with Tom and Sue, a relationship that we have always cherished. When Ben was in fifth grade, Linda gave him rides to our house and he would spend an hour with us, twice a week, if I am recalling correctly. During that time we became very close to Ben and we have considered him like a nephew to us. We also had the pleasure of seeing Riley grow into a fine young man.

I have always admired Tom and Sue, as as good friends and as Christian people. I remember the very special times when Linda and I (and later Sam) would get together with Tom and Sue and the family. Each time was a special occasion. I can remember taking Sam to Sue’s Kindermusic class and having a great time while Sam wandered around the classroom. I cherished Sue’s friendship and just being with her was always a special time. I remember saying to her once, before I even thought about it, “Sue, I would do anything for you.” Later, as I thought about this statement, I realized that it was just another reflection of how close I felt to Tom and Sue. I don’t think that words alone can express what knowing Sue meant to me or to any of us. We will all miss her smile and warmth and love.

--Mitch

Memorial a Blessing

Saturdays memorial was a blessing and a trial to anyone who knew Sue. I have known Tom and Sue since they met and regret that we didn't always stay in touch. It was our loss. I've had more wonderful times than I can mention with them. Fortunately, in recent years our families met in conjunction with concerts at Summerfest. We will miss those and many other times. There is a void left with her absense.

Brian & Betty

Beautiful Memorial

What a beautiful inspiring memorial to Sue's life which was held on Sat., Mar. 24 at the Moravian Church! I was glad I was able to witness the wonderful impact Sue had on so many lives. Sue was a person who was not only beautiful on the outside but on the inside too! Sue will be greatly missed, but her spirit will live on forever!
--Anonymous

Sue's Fudge and Lots of Food Times

What more can I say but the title. Chocolate is such a great food- and Sue's fudge was always great.

But more than that there is always something special about sharing food- we used to call it breaking bread. In fact the word "companion" comes from sharing bread- eating together. It seems the Lehmans and the Heningers did a lot of that around all kinds of places.

Sometimes it was on band trips to New York City or Branson, MO. It was in Trinidad and Tobago where we weren't always sure what it was we were eating. Then there were the zillions of meals at one or another Perkins or Baker's Square. Hamburgers, chicken and salad on the deck or a Thanksgiving dinner can all be added. And let us not forget squeakers on the way to Spring Green.

But it was always more than just eating- it was a time of life and grace at work.

What a blessing such times have been.

Barry & Val